Erotic blogger Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee in Sumptuous Erotica

There are many topic to blog about.

One of them is on Sex.

By posting videos and photos on  Sex, your blog will get instant huge volume of volume and attract massive view.

Erotic blogger, Alvin Tan Jye Yee posted some erotic pictures and videos  in a blog called Sumptuous Erotica and become instantly viral.

Sumptuous Erotica Erotic blogger Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee in Sumptuous Erotica

Alvin Tan and her partner Vivian Lee was featured in the blog. They has become very hot and “popular” in Malaysia.

At the same time, both of them has become the most controversial couple in Malaysia right now.

They share their intimate life to the world using Blog.

Their blog was a sex blog that show nude and erotic pictures and videos of them having sex.

They even posted a picture of used sanitary pad!  In the video, Vivian Lee claimed she is not transsexual by posting that picture.

Some the  images includes nude artistic portraits of the couple, both of  themselves having sex,  close-up shots of their genitalia etc.

It also has a video on a “Rape” scene where Alvin Tan was “raping”  her partner Vivian Lee!

The blog had received over 100,000 visitors on this Monday. However the erotic pictures and videos content have been removed today.

Sex is a taboo subject in Malaysia.

Nobody is willing to share their intimate life and videos of engaged in several sex acts, to the public.

However, Vivian Lee said “I see nothing wrong in posting the nude pictures and videos of our sexual relationship on the Internet. It was intended for the world to see how much we love each other. I cannot understand why people have to make so much fuss about this. It is our private affair.

To us, the pictures on the blog were a work of art. We are open-minded people and we just want to share this with the world. We want them to see how pretty it was. It is all right for Westerners to do this but not Asians. This is double standard. I cannot understand why people have to judge us.

There is nothing wrong talking about or having sex. It is a normal thing between two consenting adults. There should not be any stigma when a couple wants to talk or be frank about this. I cannot understand why this has to be blown out of proportion and sensationalised.

It was not done for commercial purposes. It was simply for fun and love. When we started the blog in September, we got a small following, mostly from Westerners. But three weeks into the postings and after more pictures and videos were uploaded, Singaporean and Malaysian Internet users got wind of it, and in less than two days, the site went viral, followed by exposure by the Singapore media.

I don’t care about what people think or say about me or their perception of who I am. I don’t care if men stare or ogle when I am out in public. Neither am I embarrassed for being the girl in the erotic pictures and videos”

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11 Responses to “Erotic blogger Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee in Sumptuous Erotica”

  1. Sex blog duo speak out

    Unperturbed by snide remarks and backlash against their erotic blog, lovers Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee have told their detractors to back off.

    In a video message posted on Tuesday, Tan and Lee fielded frequently asked questions about them since their blog Sumptuous Erotica went viral after the Singaporean media featured it.

    Asked if they would be issuing a public apology, Tan poured vitriol on his critics.

    “(Making an apology) has never crossed my mind. What do I have to apologise for? For hurting your soft, sensitive feelings?

    “Or, I don’t know, breaching some moral code which you hold dearly to yourself, which I do not hold to?

    “So no, I will not be making a public apology,” he said, to which Lee chimed in: “No way”.

    At the same time, Tan an Asean scholar at the National University of Singapore’s law faculty said their lives had changed for the better now that they were out in the open.

    “We really appreciate the media attention. Back then, not a lot of people cared about what we did or said, but now a lot of people seem to care about what we do, or at least temporarily, so that is good.

    “We don’t want to run away from the limelight. We want to get comfortable with controversy and learn how to manage media attention. So, I don’t know how our lives have been negatively affected,” he said.

    They also said they would continue doing what they have been doing.

    “But it’s a question of timing. We probably won’t continue again so soon … (or) publish so quickly; we will look for a more subtle way to distribute our material in the future,” Tan said.

    In the nine-minute video posted on Youtube, the couple, fully clothed, were asked if they would participate in unusual sex acts.

    “I don’t know. I’m an open-minded guy. I’ll do everything once. It’s up to Vivian,” he said, to which Lee excitedly said she was game.

    Lee, 23, has just finished her business studies and is looking for a job. Tan, 24, is an accomplished pianist and guitarist as his YouTube page suggests.

  2. Parents: They are stupid, disgraceful and selfish

    Stupid, disgraceful and selfish. These were words used by parents to describe how they felt about sex blog couple Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee.

    A father of a 20-year-old girl even said he would castrate Tan if his daughter were the law student’s girlfriend.

    The reactions were not surprising and clearly underscored the different moral values of the older generation versus the younger ones.

    “I would castrate him as I think what he has done is totally unacceptable.

    “He is a bad influence on young people,” said media practitioner Warren Wong, 50.

    MCA Complaints Bureau head Datuk Seri Michael Chong, who has handled numerous cases involving sexual impropriety, found the couple’s posting of photos and videos of them having sex on a blog bizarre and described their actions as “stupid”.

    “It brings shame to their families, relatives and friends. I feel very sorry for their parents. How are they going to face other people now?

    “It is so disgraceful that I do not even want to see the pictures or watch the videos, even though some people have asked me to check them out,” said Chong, 64, a father of three daughters who are in their 20s.

    He wondered if the couple were under the influence of drugs when they recorded and posted videos of their sexual acts because, “it is hard to believe that anyone with a sound mind would do such a thing”.

    Datin Noor Azimah Abdul Rahim, a mother of four teenagers aged 14 to 19, said the blog brought humiliation to the couple’s parents and would cause people to question their parenting methods.

    “All parents raise their children with hopes that they will bring honour to the family.

    “What Alvin and Vivian have done is shocking, and it is clear that they did not think about the consequences their actions will bring on their families,” said Noor Azimah, who is also the Parent Action Group for Education (PAGE) president.

    Businessman Caleb Lee, 52, who has a teenage daughter and son, asked the couple to put themselves in their parents’ shoes.

    “As a parent myself, I cannot imagine how sad they must feel.

    “If I ever meet Alvin and Vivian, I will ask them, If your roles with your parents were reversed, or if it were your parents who posted such pictures and videos, would you still be proud of what you did?’”

  3. It’s a cry for attention, says psychiatrist

    The couple who blogged about their sexploits may just be a plaintive cry for attention, said a psychiatrist.

    Psychiatrist Assoc Prof Dr Andrew Mohanraj said what both Alvin Tan, 24, and Vivian Lee, 23, were engaging in was definitely not consistent with societal needs and norms.

    “When they do this, it is a cry for attention. This may be to show that they are frustrated with things in life,” he said.

    However, he said that how the personalities of Tan and Lee clicked with each other could have also provoked their decision to publish their sex life on the Internet.

    “Maybe it is the type of personality that the both of them have. They both get a rush from scandalising and outraging others.”

    However, he denied the popularity brought about by social media as being the cause for such behaviour.

    “It boils down to how the family and society educate the young,” he said.

    Meanwhile, a social media “activist” Christopher Tock, agreed that such behaviour would exist with or without social media tools.

    He said that even with traditional media, there had been attempts by people to break the cultural taboo.

    Social media could amplify a certain behaviour, especially when the participants think that they have found like-minded fans or communities, he added.

    “Maybe Lee and Tan did this after seeing other couples doing the same thing. At the end of the day, they also want to be part of a group,” he said.

  4. Young ones see no harm in erotic postings

    If fame was what Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee were after, they have spades of it and coming with it, an abundance of debate as to whether their actions were morally and culturally acceptable.

    Among their peers, most are unperturbed and do not consider the couple’s posting of erotic pictures and sex videos of themselves on a blog to be immoral.

    Production manager Joshua James Peterson, 26, said while he was shocked when he read the news, he did not think the couple had crossed the line.

    “I do not mind because they are not spamming others to view their explicit pictures and videos. It is one’s free will to view them.

    “They can do anything they want as long as they do not force their ideas upon others,” he said.

    Student Kan Wai Min, 18, said although he felt the two should keep their sexual activities private, he did not think it was immoral for them to display them publicly.

    “But I do think it is culturally inappropriate,” he said.

    Others showed their support on social media. @AnnoyingBobby said “I just cannot brain (understand) Vivian Lee and Alvin Tan. But it seems those two are happy with what they’re doing. So, let them.”

    Twitter user @warbaby also defended the pair, saying “Maybe all who are upset over Vivian Lee and Alvin Tan’s pics wanna do the same but don’t dare to? It’s their own thing, why judge?”

    @SyeikhSL tweeted “Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee, hats off!”

    A former classmate of Lee thought she was “brave”.

    David Woon, who attended university with Lee, described her as “a very sweet and kind” person, adding that the incident was “out of the imaginable”.

    “Of course I was shocked initially, but I think it’s only right to be truly concerned and give her the proper support she needs. To those who are sharing the news and wagging their tongues about it, I can only say there’s more to life than to get over-excited about one’s sexual lifestyle,” he said.

    Singapore Straits Times spoke to Tan’s former classmates, one of whom said the law student was “reliable and dependable”.

    Online fashion entrepreneur May Tan Mei Wan, 24, said she found out about the blog two months ago from mutual friends.

    “We discussed it and felt it was disgusting to post such contents online.

    “I think that they must have insecurities and doing this gives them self assurance or makes them feel more superior,” she said.

    Peterson pointed out that although the duo were getting a lot of attention, they might suffer negative consequences in future.

    “It may seem great now but what if they break up? Their actions may act as a barrier to finding future partners or even hinder any potential business ventures,” he said.

  5. Heat is on for steamy duo

    They have become outrageously famous in a week but the consequences of having a scandalous sex blog are starting to set in for Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee.

    Lee, 23, may be kicked out of her family home after “Sumptuous Erotica”, the blog she shared with Tan, 24, made the headlines in several newspapers here and in Singapore.

    “My mother gave me an ultimatum marry him or move out within a month,” she said, adding that she was “a little scared” about the prospect.

    She had just graduated with a marketing degree from Multimedia University and is living in Johor Baru with her mother and elder brother.

    Tan has been spending leave of absence from the National University of Singapore (NUS) by being with his parents here and his rented apartment in Kuala Lumpur. This leave is unrelated to the sex blog.

    Lee said with the slim probability of marrying Tan, as both considered themselves young and not committed to each other monogamously, she might just end up moving in with him.

    “I think she can depend on me. I think I can provide financially,” said Tan during a lengthy interview with The Star Media Group here yesterday.

    Both said that Lee’s distraught and widowed mother had been trying to contact Tan to rebuke him but he did not answer her calls.

    “My mother also scolded me and pleaded with me to not give any more press interviews,” said Lee. “But I guess I’m going against that, too.”

    As for Tan, an Asean scholar reading law, he faces possible expulsion from NUS besides having his expensive scholarship revoked after his and Lee’s nude pictures and sex videos hogged the headlines in the republic.

    But he said he did not see it as a “big thing” if the university sacked him and instead, appears to have set his sights on gaining more infamy.

    Both Tan and Lee want to break into show business and did not rule out the possibility of becoming actors.

    They also revealed that sharing the intimate photos and videos on the Internet were “a mutual idea”. It was Lee who coaxed Tan into capturing the nude clips of each other.

    “We started taking the nude shots the second time we met up,” said Tan. “We were fooling around in a hotel in Penang while on holiday and she was totally naked.

    “She asked me if I wanted to take her picture and I was game for it,” said Tan, who said he had not gone as far in sexual experimentation with his past girlfriends.

    “Most are cowards. OK, I take that back. They are unadventurous,” he said, adding that calling oneself “adventurous” was self-serving.

    “Doing things like bungee-jumping or skydiving is pretty standard stuff,” he said. “I want to hang out with people who have done things that are unprecedented.”

    Catch the pre-recorded interview with the couple on Red FM (104.9) and Capital FM (88.9) at 2pm today.

    Listeners in the Klang Valley can also tune in to Chinese station 988 FM (98.8) at 7.30am on Tuesday.

    Catch excerpts of sex blogger interview on radio stations’ Facebook page

    KUALA LUMPUR: Radio stations Red FM and Capital FM are unable to air interviews they had conducted with sex bloggers Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee as schedule at 2pm Saturday due to pending approval from the Malaysian Communications and Multimedia Commission.

    The stations said in a statement that listeners can catch excerpts of the interview on and

    The Star media group’s radio stations Red FM, Capital FM and 988 FM grilled sex bloggers Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee. Some of the topics include:

    - How they met and his obsession with women named “Vivian”.

    “Alvin has a fetish for the name Vivian. We met through a mutual friend on Facebook, and Alvin just added me.” – Vivian

    - On recording sex videos.

    “It is actually a lot more rehearsed. The more passionate sex that we have is not recorded. It is actually like work.” – Alvin

    - What if it were their kids putting up sex videos?

    “I wouldn’t encourage them directly, but I will encourage them to develop whatever that they are talented or interested in.” – Alvin

    - Their feelings for each other.

    I think it is natural for a girl to be more attached to the guy than for the guy to be more attached to the girl. – Alvin

    - Does he regret any of this?

    “We will only regret the things that we don’t do. Twenty years from now, I will look back to my 20s and think that I was so awesome.” – Alvin

  6. Sex blogger says he looked up to Soi Lek, sexually

    Controversial sex blogger Alvin Tan has described himself as a fan of the sexual exploits of Datuk Seri Dr Chua Soi Lek, unexpectedly dredging up the MCA president’s unsavoury past when he was secretly filmed having sex with his mistress.

    “I used to look up to Datuk Seri Dr Chua Soi Lek, sexually. Funny how things turned out,” Tan (picture) said in a posting on his Facebook page.

    While Tan’s suggestion that he is a fan of Dr Chua is clearly tongue-in-cheek, it will be unwelcome news for the MCA president as he prepares for elections already handicapped by the fact that his party remains unpopular among the Chinese community.

    In 2007, secretly recorded footage of Dr Chua having sex with his mistress in a hotel in Johor was leaked to the public.

    He was subsequently forced to resign as health minister in early 2008 and was not selected as a Barisan Nasional (BN) candidate in elections that year.

    But he made a comeback to take over as MCA president in 2010 after a prolonged period of infighting in the party.

    Despite winning the party presidency Dr Chua has been unable to secure a Cabinet position, largely due to the negative perception surrounding his sex exploits.

    Tan is the man at the centre of a controversy after he and his girlfriend posted in a joint blog photographs and videos of themselves having sex.

    Tan is a National University of Singapore (NUS) law scholarship holder. After news broke of his joint blog with Vivian Lee, his girlfriend who is also from Malaysia, the university said it would investigate him based on disrepute charges. Tan will face his university’s disciplinary inquiry on October 31.

    Last week, he publicised on a Singapore forum the link to his blog.

    On the site “Sumptuous Erotica”, Tan and Lee said they loved posting details of their sex life on the web “for everyone to enjoy” and that they uploaded only self-made content.

    The blog has since been taken down.

    Tan moved to Singapore under the ASEAN scholarship in 2004 and attended Xinmin Secondary School and Raffles Junior College before he went to NUS.

    In a separate posting on Facebook, Tan also hit out at his critics and pointed out that media outlets carrying his story were making profits at the expense of his girlfriend and him.

    “Shame on me as a businessman. They’re making a fortune out of Vivian and me,” he said.

  7. Cyber cops get on case of sex bloggers

    Police from the Bukit Aman CyberSecurity and Multimedia Investigation Division have begun a probe into the case of a couple who made public their sexual trysts in their blog Sumptuous Erotica.

    The blog was set up by National University of Singapore (NUS) law student Alvin Tan, 24, and marketing graduate Vivian Lee, 23, to upload photos and videos of themselves in suggestive poses as well as having sex.

    Federal Commercial Crime Investigation Department Director Comm Datuk Syed Ismail Syed Azizan said his department was looking into the blog.

    “I have directed the CyberSecurity and Multimedia Investigation Division to look into the matter,” Syed Ismail said yesterday.

    He said police were checking if the couple had committed any offences under Section 292 of the Penal Code and Section 5 of the Film Censorship Act 2002 for possessing circulating, exhibiting, distributing, displaying, manufacturing, producing, selling or hiring, any film or film-publicity material which is obscene or is otherwise against public decency.

    The duo could face a maximum five years’ jail or RM10,000 fine or both if charged and convicted.

  8. Love, lust and hate

    It’s OK for National Geographic to show topless dancing tribal women on TV but when a Malaysian couple share their love-making online, we go ballistic. Why?

    WHEN I encountered my first topless beach in Koh Samui, Thailand, yes, like any other deprived Malaysian male, I gawked and gasped.

    But, to be honest, after 30 minutes, the whole novelty wore off. Look at the 17th pair of bare boobs? Uh … I’d rather have my tomyam.

    Sumptuous Erotica, the sex blog by Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee (or Alvivi) continues to entice the mainstream media. Exactly what is it about their blog that constitutes a “social wrong”?

    Back in 19th century Victorian England (and in rural Afghanistan today) even showing a female ankle was considered scandalous. Yet, those Highly Moral people had no qualms about slavery, child labour and colonial exploitation.

    Whenever someone focuses only on sexual morality while conveniently overlooking the larger, more important, morality of social justice, I am always on the alert for the four-letter word known as Hypocrisy. The biggest international example is George W. Bush, who won the 2004 US presidential elections by “morally” campaigning against abortion and gay marriages while releasing mayhem upon Iraq and allowing Wall Street to plunder the economy.

    In contrast, the Alvivi duo have harmed nobody directly. Somebody argued that it would be offensive to see a couple having sex on a condo balcony. I would say the crucial difference here is that nobody is being forced to watch (that is, visit the online site).

    If one is an upright conservative who already knows it’s a sex blog, why on earth look for it and risk getting other things upright? Or is it confession time? Of that dark psychological cocktail of disgust (which furnishes a perverse satisfaction of feeling morally superior) mixed with sweaty voyeurism?

    Let’s be frank – how many of those who condemn the duo (especially the girl) for their sex blog have watched and enjoyed pornography before? If so, what’s with the holier-than-thou attitude?

    No, I am not advocating that others follow the example of Alvivi – I, for one, would be too shy myself, especially since I don’t have six-pack abs. But jokes aside, why are many Malaysians alternately so morbidly fascinated by the duo (come on, admit it) yet are ever ready to pour contempt upon them?

    Studs and sluts?

    If Alvivi did this in Europe, it would be just another sex blog, ho hum. Yet here, a not-spectacularly-good-looking couple showing off their not-spectacularly-acrobatic sex have become celebrities. Rather than condemning them, I believe we have to turn the mirror upon ourselves and ask: are we so deprived and hungry for titillation (as I was in Koh Samui) that an ordinary sex blog can become a national talking point?

    Psychiatrists have said the couple may be compulsively hungry for attention. If so, what’s new? Everybody on Facebook who rants about some boring detail of their lives and every tycoon who buys a flashy luxury car, has attention-seeking “issues” too, right?

    Or is exhibitionism their true social sin? Agreed, it is rather shocking for this country. But, well, at least it’s something they obviously enjoy and – rightly or wrongly – are proud to show the world. Sometimes, one wonders, is there greater honesty and “dignity” when we keep up social pretences that “all is fine” while we grit our teeth in the silent desperation of loveless and, yes, lustless marriages?

    Looking at the press comments about the duo, it’s clear that most people feel it is the girl who is on the “losing end” of their so-called “free show”, and doubly guilty of “shaming her family”.

    Being conditioned by Malaysian society, I admit that if I had a daughter, my own innate male territorial instincts about “protecting” my family’s “honour” would probably kick in furiously (primitively?). However, if it was my son who sex-blogged, I confess the feelings might just be somewhat less distraught.

    Or, to put it in Vivian’s words (as quoted in The Star): “My parents … are not as open or cool as Alvin’s parents are. It’s more of what you call a ‘face’ thing.”

    Let’s admit it, our “respectable and principled” society has its own sexist double standards about “face” – a sexually active man is a stud, while a similar woman is somehow, whatever anybody may say, a slut.

    The oft-cited criticism that Sumptuous Erotica is a “free show” also assumes that sex is a kind of commodity or bargaining chip that should be deployed mainly for financial or social advantage. Are we really therefore a more progressive society?

    Is exhibitionism so wrong? In Sweden, it’s not uncommon for office workers to go to a park at lunch time, strip buck naked and munch on sandwiches under summer sunshine without the slightest embarrassment.

    Are the Swedes therefore a depraved people? Are their nudists “shaming their families” and “disgracing their country”? Yet we Malaysians look up to Swedish brands such as Ikea and Volvo. And in the 1980s, we happily went ga-ga over Abba as they sang, “Gimme gimme gimme a man after midnight …”

    But more importantly, Sweden is the fourth least corrupt country in the world according to Transparency International. It is proudly an egalitarian society, with a much narrower gap between the rich and poor than other nations which are far more “moral” about nudity and sex.

    Releasing steam

    If exhibitionism per se does not bring damnation on a country, what about the reverse? Does having a great sense of “shame” over unlicensed (outside of marriage) sex mean that a country is more developed, compassionate and progressive?

    On Oct 21, the BBC highlighted a horrendous gang rape in conservative Haryana in northern India. Being “overcome with shame”, the victim’s father committed suicide. Officially, an average of two rapes occur every day in that state, and many, many more go unreported.

    However, a member of the traditional (all-male) village council did not blame the rapists, nor the male-dominated social system that often allowed rapists to escape punishment. Instead he said: “I’ll tell you the main reason for these rapes. Just look at what’s in the newspapers, on television. Topless women. This is what’s corrupting our youth.”

    Blaming media images of sexy women is an easy way for the Haryana man to ignore his own bigotry and narrow-mindedness. A similar (and often heard) argument is that pornography (including sex blogs presumably) encourages sexual crimes.

    Yet, a 2010 report in the Science Daily shows research evidence that when porn became widely available in the Czech Republic (after the fall of communism in 1989), rapes and other sex crimes “fell significantly”. This correlates with similar research findings in Canada, Croatia, Denmark, Germany, Finland, Hong Kong, Shanghai, Sweden and the United States.

    Professor Anthony D’Amato of the respected Northwestern University School of Law in Chicago, Illinois, also has evidence that rape in the United States declined by 85% from 1981 to 2006 even as access to porn shot up. He believes this could be because people watching porno “get it out of their system”. The reverse was the “Victorian effect”: the more people covered up, the greater the lure of the unknown.

    I was surprised to read this. Then again, this was similar to my Koh Samui experience – after half an hour at a topless beach, exposed mammaries were no big deal.

    So has Sumptuous Erotica managed to demystify sex somewhat? Removed the potent lure of Prohibited Pleasures and made it as ordinary as, say, skateboarding?

    This can be compared to cases when the National Geographic Channel had been allowed by our dear censors to show images of topless women doing traditional dances in Papua New Guinea. Since it’s “their culture”, bouncing black tribal breasts are therefore more “acceptable”, whereas the slightest exposure of Western or Oriental nipples would be unforgivable.

    So is sex blogging becoming “our culture”? Not yet perhaps, but in 50 years time, who knows? I am sure people 50 years ago could not have imagined that young Malaysian girls today would be wearing short shorts and semi-transparent blouses as their out-to-town “uniform” (they always wear the same type of outfits, don’t they!).

    I certainly do not advocate Alvivi’s path, but we have to acknowledge that sexual urges are a powerful primal force. They gain power when smothered in veils of mystery, just as steam builds up force as we desperately hold down the lid of a boiling pot. Or, to use another analogy, the harder we try NOT to think about the pink elephant in a yellow Volkswagen, the clearer the image becomes.

    In this country, we have seen that when outward manifestations of sexuality are condemned and suppressed, too often, we drive it underground into a chamber of shame and guilt where they bizarrely bloom as Forbidden Fruit. What then emerges are cases of girls secretly giving birth in toilets and dumping infants in garbage bins – while the guys get off scot-free.

    Should we then be more tolerant, indeed accepting, of sexual behaviour that we may not agree with? I can’t claim to be a good Buddhist, but I am always humbled by its teaching to have loving kindness and compassion for ALL beings: black or white, rich or poor, male or female, gay or straight and, I presume, exhibitionist or not.

    Here, I am struck by Vivian’s Facebook post: “Don’t let anyone change you just because you expressed yourself differently from them. Haters will always be haters.”

    If the only so-called sin of this couple is that they have graphically displayed their love (and OK, lust) to the world, should we despise them for that? Does judging them make us morally superior? Yet it has been said, “Let him who has no sin cast the first stone.”

    As long as they cause nobody any real harm, is it so wrong to just let lovers do what they wish? Between being a lover and a hater, what would you choose?

  9. Sex blogger Alvin Tan apologises to NUS

    Sex blogger Alvin Tan apologised to the National University of Singapore (NUS) for bringing “disrepute” to the university.

    The Straits Times quoted him as telling the NUS disciplinary board that while he was sorry for bringing disrepute to the institution, what he did was done in his “own personal time as a private individual and not an NUS student.”

    “What I did was a victimless crime,” the Straits Times website quoted him as saying. “Nobody was really harmed or hurt in the process.”

    Tan, 24, emerged from the NUS’ University Hall at about 3.50pm on Wednesday after a 90-minute disciplinary hearing.

    He looked calm and openly spoke to the media who greeted him.

    Tan said that there was no outcome yet from the hearing, which was conducted by five members of the university’s board.

    “They told me I will hear from them within seven days. The atmosphere at the hearing was serious,” he said.

    Earlier, the law student arrived at NUS at about 2.20pm without his girlfriend, Vivian Lee, 23.

    Tan, an Asean scholarship holder, was casually clad in a red shirt, jeans and a colourful beanie which he wore in one of his videos.

  10. Sex blogger apologises to family on Facebook

    SEX blogger Vivian Lee (pic), who published her sexual trysts with her boyfriend Alvin Tan in the blog Sumptuous Erotica, has apologised to her family, especially her mother, on Facebook.

    Lee, a marketing graduate, posted the apology at 3pm on Saturday.

    She said she sincerely apologised to her mother who had to face tremendous pressure following the media spotlight on her daring expose.

    Oriental Daily reported that Lee, 23, was also willing to say sorry to the Malaysian and Singaporean authorities if their action had offended the public. (Her boyfriend is a law student at National University of Singapore).

  11. NUS to take disciplinary action against sex blogger but does not elaborate

    The National University of Singapore (NUS) has concluded that sex blogger Alvin Tan’s inappropriate conduct was detrimental to the reputation of the university and has decided to take disciplinary action against him. But the university did not elaborate about the nature of the disciplinary action.

    In a written reply, an NUS spokesperson said that the disciplinary board had considered the seriousness of the offence and took into account the mitigating factors presented by Tan, 24, in a hearing on Oct 31.

    “The board has concluded that Tan’s inappropriate conduct was detrimental to the reputation and dignity of the university.

    “We have informed him about the board’s decision,” said the spokesperson, who declined to elaborate on the nature of the disciplinary action against Tan.

    Attempts to contact Tan were unsuccessful, as he did not respond to calls, messages and Facebook messages.

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